Looks, Personality or Wealth?

Hi everyone!

If you didn’t manage to catch me last Sunday, you missed an excellent topic we discussed. On our Facebook page @ Red FM (Malaysia), I asked the question; “In finding a partner, what is the most important element; personality, looks or wealth? I was amazed to see so many responses and opinions. The original post and responses are still there on the page so do head there and check it out!

As expected, almost everyone, especially the majority females who responded, went for personality; kindness, responsible, big hearted etc. Sure, of course this is all good and ideal. But is it really the case?

Let me put this into perspective. Say you (a female) were out on the town socializing. And say, a guy comes up to you and says hi. He doesn’t look good and is penniless. But he has a great first impression personality-wise. Would you actually entertain him and continue the interaction? It’s a big maybe right? It’s a big maybe because personality can’t be judged so quickly. You need to get to know a person quite well before understanding his personality. But to get to that point, surely he needs to meet certain requirements for you to actually consider his personality.

First impressions are actually not really about personality, it’s about what stands out immediately about a person that catches your attention and then coerces you into wanting to get to know him a little better. This is almost always (of course arguably) about looks, and to some extent, wealth.

The key phrase in my question is “in finding a partner”. Finding. I’m talking about the point where your attention is whisked away buy a guy or girl you see. The point where you go “Oh wow!” or “hmm interesting” or “WHO is THAT?” Don’t deny it. This is usually because of how hot a person looks (applies to both males and females at both ends), or how rich he seems to be. (And never forget that beauty is in the eye of the beholder: to each, his own)

Sure, personality is important in accepting a partner and knowing whether or not he or she is good for you. It’ll actually determine whether or not the relationship is sustained etc. But, in my opinion, it’s starts after the point of meeting, after he or she has caught your attention. And what usually catches attention? That’s right. Looks and probably wealth. Personality too, but to me that comes a little later.

I’d love to hear more from you so if you have an opinion on this, find our facebook page @ Red FM (Malaysia), find this wall post from me, and leave your comments there okay? J