Wednesday, May 26, 2010

Looks, Personality or Wealth?

Hi everyone!

If you didn’t manage to catch me last Sunday, you missed an excellent topic we discussed. On our Facebook page @ Red FM (Malaysia), I asked the question; “In finding a partner, what is the most important element; personality, looks or wealth? I was amazed to see so many responses and opinions. The original post and responses are still there on the page so do head there and check it out!

As expected, almost everyone, especially the majority females who responded, went for personality; kindness, responsible, big hearted etc. Sure, of course this is all good and ideal. But is it really the case?

Let me put this into perspective. Say you (a female) were out on the town socializing. And say, a guy comes up to you and says hi. He doesn’t look good and is penniless. But he has a great first impression personality-wise. Would you actually entertain him and continue the interaction? It’s a big maybe right? It’s a big maybe because personality can’t be judged so quickly. You need to get to know a person quite well before understanding his personality. But to get to that point, surely he needs to meet certain requirements for you to actually consider his personality.

First impressions are actually not really about personality, it’s about what stands out immediately about a person that catches your attention and then coerces you into wanting to get to know him a little better. This is almost always (of course arguably) about looks, and to some extent, wealth.

The key phrase in my question is “in finding a partner”. Finding. I’m talking about the point where your attention is whisked away buy a guy or girl you see. The point where you go “Oh wow!” or “hmm interesting” or “WHO is THAT?” Don’t deny it. This is usually because of how hot a person looks (applies to both males and females at both ends), or how rich he seems to be. (And never forget that beauty is in the eye of the beholder: to each, his own)

Sure, personality is important in accepting a partner and knowing whether or not he or she is good for you. It’ll actually determine whether or not the relationship is sustained etc. But, in my opinion, it’s starts after the point of meeting, after he or she has caught your attention. And what usually catches attention? That’s right. Looks and probably wealth. Personality too, but to me that comes a little later.

I’d love to hear more from you so if you have an opinion on this, find our facebook page @ Red FM (Malaysia), find this wall post from me, and leave your comments there okay? J

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Praying for Bangkok...

Just wanted to leave a short note here in honor of our neighboring country. Praying for the very best for them, and the rest facing the same situation. It's so sad to see how politics can bring down a city and community albeit only in certain parts. I am so thankful to be a citizen of, and living in Malaysia.

Learn from what we see. Be thankful for where we are. And pray for those in peril...

Saturday, May 22, 2010

PerGo

It's a Friday night.
And after a long hiatus, I finally brought myself to go out again.
I owe it to my friends, near and far, who happen to be in town this very night.
And so I did. Bringing myself to the epicenter of the city, where the dwellers crawl through the night, reveling into the morning, living life to the fullest, the way everyone should.

And there I was. Standing. Smiling. Being the person who should and ought to be there.

But I wasn't there.

I was with you. In a place when time moves neither backward or forward. In a place where everything was perfect and there wasn't a worry in sight. In a place that has now become my most beautiful memory....

The last time I was here, it was with you. The last time I actually smiled, it was with you. The last time I was where I should and ought to be, it was with you. And here I am again, without you. And thus, me being here, is not really true.

How did we get here? How did we end up living my worst fear? The answer for me will never be clear. How you are, where you are and whether or not your okay. Questions that I ask myself every single painful day.

As I was driving back tonight, this song was on air again. How apt. I'm not sure if Aizat himself wrote it, but whoever did, you got it right for me right now buddy...

Sayu terpisah
Hikayat indah kini hanya tinggal sejarah
Berhembus angin rindu
Begitu nyamannya terhidu wangian kasihmu
Sepi tanpa kata
Terdiam dan kaku tak daya kau kulupa
Apa pun kata mereka
Biarkan kenangan berbunga di ranting usia

Hujan lebat mencurah kini
Bagaikan tiada
Kaulah laguku kau irama terindah
Tak lagi kudengari
Kau pergi... pergi...
Pergi...


Missing you, are merely words. They don't come close to telling how I am feeling right now. Im still there. MTYEK...

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

Oh Shanghai

Hi everyone!

It's been a while since I managed to update my blog. Been out of the country in April. I actually tried to blog from there but apparently China prohibits anyone from entering blogspot from there. So here was what was supposed to be blogged the last time.

It's good to be back! Missed y'all!


Hi from 39000 feet in the sky

Yup. That’s right. I am writing to you from 39000 feet as I cross the South China Sea for the third time this month.

Hi everyone! It’s been a while since I wrote here. Work has been keeping me busy and honestly, every time I think about making an entry here, some other work thing manages to swarm and flood the cavities of my mind and wash the thought away. And I end up forgetting about it up until the next time it pops up.

Yes I’ve been away for a while. I haven’t been on air basically because I haven’t been in town. Day job’s been keeping me busy in a place which I recently discovered to be a mega-city called Shanghai.

It’s been a long trip. So long, that I actually had to celebrate my birthday here and miss out on my sister’s and Amy’s in KL. And it’s not even over yet. Yessirree, I am typing this from 39000 feet above the city of Hong Kong, and heading NORTH! For the second time this month, I’ll be stepping on the grounds of Mainland China. To be exact, the crazy city of Shanghai.

In what was originally a business trip which I went with much hesitance and reluctance (I thought Shanghai was more of an old school china kinda town), the realization of the sheer magnitude of this city, with the millions of its inhabitants buzzing around in what is seemingly a very foreign lifestyle for me, has brought me to the realization that there is so much more that I haven’t seen in this world. And for our lifetime, more often than not, we will never get to see everything anyway. So I guess we’ll just have to enjoy whatever comes our way. One by one. From one portion of the earth’s surface to the other. Embracing each of them through all our senses so that the memory will remain with us forever.

Here are some shots from over a thousand that I took while in this enormous city, with a population close to that of our country. Enjoy:





So I finally got myself the telephoto lens for my G10. That pretty much burned more spirit for me to go out and take more shots. Seems like the cease of my mission to actually discover the full potential of this camera is still further away with my new tele-lens. In fact, I’m actually considering to get the flash as well.

Anyway, aside from the camera, there’re lots to say about Shanghai. I’m not gonna go through every detail but here’s my personal top 10 to-do items when in Shanghai. If you don’t manage to do at least half of these, you haven’t seen Shanghai:

1.    Take the MAGLEV train to and from the airport to downtown. Speed of up to 461 km/h
2.    Walk along the Bund and Pudong riverside


3.    Go up Jinmao Tower or Shanghai World Financial Tower (Highest observation point in the world to date on the 100th floor. Best part, the floor is made out of glass and you can see below. There goes the “don’t look down” part).


4.    Shop at either the Yu Yuan Gardens, 580 mall on Nanjing, Science Museum underground bazaar or the underground bazaar on Nanjing road. Good stuff here (especially if you’re looking for too good to be “not real” items)
5.    Have a late-night drink on top of the Shangri-La Pudong
6.    Visit Xintiandi district
7.    Take a evening and night walk on Nanjing road.

8.    Take a taxi ride on one of the many multi layered elevated highways in downtown – don’t be surprised to find 5 different highway levels at one time. You can even drive from downtown to the airport without touching the ground level.
9.    Take a taxi ride to anywhere to experience how people drive here.
10.  Have a hand-made noodle soup or Shanghai hairy crabs – whichever is easier to find.



Do any three of these, and consider yourself to have truly visited Shanghai. J


On another note, I just finished watching The Blind Side on this flight, and I find this movie truly amazing. Considering it’s a true story, I would have never imagined that such kindness exists among the richer Americans living in a more “red-neck” part of the country. (I’m not talk more about the plot in case you haven’t seen it for yourself).

And for Sandra’s Bullock’s character, oh wow. That is my definition of the perfect wife. Perfection, in my opinion, from every possible aspect. That person exists, and to whom that she belongs, truly that man is beyond lucky. J What a beautiful person….

Anyways, I’m still gonna be away for a while. Will be in and out of the country and more importantly and unfortunately, off-air for a while longer. I miss you guys. I miss KL. I miss my family. I miss Amy. All this missing is making me depressed. And when I’m depressed I eat. And now I am FATTER!!!

But I’ll keep that for another entry. Stay real. Adios!!